I remember when it was just Jude and I.
My firstborn giggly, smoosh-faced, blue-eyed, ice-cream-loving only child.
With the addition of Leland these last 2 years, I have seen love flourish between two souls in a way I didn't imagine. When 'Ju Ju' leaves for school, Leland cares. When he comes home, he runs back and forth, jumps ridiculously around the house & gets a big bear hug when they meet. Time with the miller boy duo is nothing short of hilarious.
I will say, however:
One-on-one time with my first born doesn't happen enough.
With all the crazy running we do in this life, it's simply difficult to make that time.
Last week I did. I am really glad I did.
It was a simple 30 minute trip to Menchies. Disclaimer: I really cannot stand this new fro-go place. It's always crowded and I feel rushed into a sorbet selection. I will say I tried the pumpkin fro-go and OMG.SO.FAB The reason we went there is because my 6 year old is obsessed.
We sat down, gave one another a little taste of our custom fro-go/sorbet & basked in a few moments toddler-less. I asked Jude a few questions - the rest went something like this:
ME: So, bud, I feel like we haven't spent much time just you and me....I am sad about that.
JUDE: Me too. (yogurt slurping)
ME: I am going to try and be better at that. Today I want you to know this is something special for just the two of us so if there is anything you want to talk about....now is a great time.
JUDE: Well...(LONG PAUSE & continued yogurt slurpin)...sometimes I miss it when it was just me & you, Mommy. I love Leland but I just miss it sometimes.
ME: I know, baby. Me too.
JUDE: I sometimes miss you.
ME: (trying not to cry) I miss you too, lovebug. It's hard when you are gone at school all day - I sometimes just wish you were home with me.
JUDE: Me too. oh....Mommy!
JUDE: I think when I am a grownup & have a son...I'm going to take them to Menchies too.
ME: I think your son would love it.
JUDE: I also think that his Mom can go to work to make all the money for us & we can just play video games all day.
ME: (laughter) Perhaps she will...
Moral of this blog post:
STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T URGENT & GO HANG OUT WITH THOSE COOL MINI HUMANS MORE...life is too short.