I remember when it was just Jude and I.
My firstborn giggly, smoosh-faced, blue-eyed, ice-cream-loving only child.
With the addition of Leland these last 2 years, I have seen love flourish between two souls in a way I didn't imagine. When 'Ju Ju' leaves for school, Leland cares. When he comes home, he runs back and forth, jumps ridiculously around the house & gets a big bear hug when they meet. Time with the miller boy duo is nothing short of hilarious.
I will say, however:
One-on-one time with my first born doesn't happen enough.
With all the crazy running we do in this life, it's simply difficult to make that time.
Last week I did. I am really glad I did.
It was a simple 30 minute trip to Menchies. Disclaimer: I really cannot stand this new fro-go place. It's always crowded and I feel rushed into a sorbet selection. I will say I tried the pumpkin fro-go and OMG.SO.FAB The reason we went there is because my 6 year old is obsessed.
So there.
We sat down, gave one another a little taste of our custom fro-go/sorbet & basked in a few moments toddler-less. I asked Jude a few questions - the rest went something like this:
ME: So, bud, I feel like we haven't spent much time just you and me....I am sad about that.
JUDE: Me too. (yogurt slurping)
ME: I am going to try and be better at that. Today I want you to know this is something special for just the two of us so if there is anything you want to talk about....now is a great time.
JUDE: Well...(LONG PAUSE & continued yogurt slurpin)...sometimes I miss it when it was just me & you, Mommy. I love Leland but I just miss it sometimes.
ME: I know, baby. Me too.
JUDE: I sometimes miss you.
ME: (trying not to cry) I miss you too, lovebug. It's hard when you are gone at school all day - I sometimes just wish you were home with me.
JUDE: Me too. oh....Mommy!
ME: Yeah?
JUDE: I think when I am a grownup & have a son...I'm going to take them to Menchies too.
ME: I think your son would love it.
JUDE: I also think that his Mom can go to work to make all the money for us & we can just play video games all day.
ME: (laughter) Perhaps she will...
Moral of this blog post:
STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T URGENT & GO HANG OUT WITH THOSE COOL MINI HUMANS MORE...life is too short.
LOVE this Jess. My second one isn't here yet, but already grieving the one on one time with my dear little Abi-lou. Ugh....I was near tears yesterday when I thought on it again. :) Love you!
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